What is the relation between Carrier Man and Marriage. Lately, I am curious in observing people surrounding me, both man and woman. I am looking around my colleagues and start observing them one by one. OK, I have to be honest…yes true…I am observing the male only….as a starting point.
Most of my colleagues are either married or having girlfriend. And believe me, they are not old which is of course really surprising me. One colleagues of mine is married when he was 25 years old, the other is 23 years old, and even there is one colleague who got married when he was only 20 years old. 20 YEARS OLD! Even I could not understand that. I mean, I am Indonesian which people will hunt you down to “force” you to get married before 30. Even after 25 years old, people will keep asking you “when are u getting married? don’t you want to build a family” bla bla bla things…even though they know that we don’t have any partner yet. And what I know about European is they do not want to be in such commitment in such young age. It is really the contrary between the thing I assume and the thing in reality. Well not totally, maybe it is such a coincidence that people surrounding me got married in such young age.
I keep asking myself why people surrounding me got married in early age. My sister said to me “It is because you are having friend with good people only. And good people always wants to give full respect to the one they truly loved. Therefore, they don’t want to waste any time or decrease any value of it. They decided to go to the next level with someone they care and love“
I thought about this, and it seems it is true. Man who wants to boost up their successful in life will prefer to not waste time to anything. This kind of love-life is one of them. Man does not want to fool around himself just to get the “satisfaction” of love. They will just go for it, stick with it, and make it better. Just to answer my curiosity, I asked them around why they are getting married early. One of my colleague said that It is related to religious thing. He is a christian. He said that we should not mess around with someone that we loved. He said that it is almost the same as in Moslem that people can not have sex before marriage. He also holds that principle. He loves his girlfriend and he does not want to mess around with her. It’s been 5 years and they are still love each other and their love is even growing since they don’t have someone else to compare.
My other colleague said his reason why he got married when he was 20 years old. He said that he wants to have someone to fully support him in order for him to realize his dream to be a successful person. At first I don’t really understand what does it mean. Then he continue to explain it. He meant that behind a good man there is always a woman. A woman is the one who make a man. Woman is the one who shape the man. Woman is the one who add more characteristics to the man. “I could not be like this if I am still single. My wife helps me through all of the difficulty of achieving my dream. My wife is the one who I can share all of my burdens. Even though sometimes she can not help me much but her affections and understanding already make me relieved and reduce my burdens. “
I loved this answer. It is answering all of the questions that have been hovering in my head for some times now. It is true that behind a successful man there is always a woman behind him.
So, for all single man or not-yet-married man, what are you waiting for? Don’t say that you are not ready yet to say yes to marriage just because you are not good enough. When you find a woman that wants to accompany you to get through of the marriage life, don’t waste this opportunity. She will help you to build the path to be more successful, build your characteristics, build your motivation, and build your readiness.
Don’t ever say that you are not ready yet. People will never ever fully ready. What we can do as human is preparing ourselves and go for it. Believe yourselves that there is always a way to make it better.
Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!
I love myself, muach from Pink!
Start from 15 January 2012, I will force my self to memorize the Al-Qur’an. Not the whole one, but at least I have to start it from somewhere. And I will start it from the last part of the Al-Qur’an the Juz 30 or we call it Juz Amma. It consists 37 sur’ah. And I promise myself to finish it within 4 months and it means that I need to memorize it on top of my head. It should be tested as well by other person. I hope that I can finish it within the promised-range-time. The picture below is my juz-amma-log that will be used to track me with all of the process. Wish me luck guys!
