March 6, 2012 in Featured, Living Thought, Story Telling, Uncategorized
I am progressing, I am progressing….another 3 surahs have been tackled…time is ticking…another 39 days and still 20 surahs need to be memorized…But now I have a trick…I will not try to memorize the surah in orderly manner…Now I will pick the surah that interest me and try to memorize it…if it is too hard I will postpone it for later…
Wish me luck! Another 20 surahs! Yippiieee…
February 28, 2012 in Living Thought, Uncategorized
Companions are those who help you get up to believe yourself, while others tried to drop and underestimate you
I love this quote because it reminds me how I should be a good friend for all of my friend. I used to have a best friend that stabbed me from behind. Well it might be not entirely represent the quote I wrote above. But what my best friend did has made my confidence to drop. Luckily, I am able to get up again. But hurt is hurt 
My point here is, when you are befriend with someone, do not drop his or her trust. When you are a good friend of someone, your act toward him or her is much more considerable. I mean, which one is hurt the most…..being betrayed by a close-friend or by just random people (such as colleague or friend) ?
For me it will be more painful if my really close and trusted person betrayed me or stabbed me.
People can be friend and can be foe. And mostly foe comes from your own close network. But then how can we define whether he/she is a friend or foe? Well we never can define it until it is uncovered by itself.
I was never be able to differentiate whether this friend is a friend or that friend is a foe. Maybe it is part of my personality that always trust people so easy…That’s why lot of my close friends just use and abuse me.
Use me which means just rely on me when they have trouble or problem that they can not be solved. When they already happy about it, they will just forget me. Abuse me which means betrayed me such as in front of me say A and behind my back say B.
Well does that mean that now I am able to differentiate whether a friend is a friend and not a foe? No, not at all. Now I assume that all of my old-close-friend is just a friend. No attached feeling and sensitivity. It is saver. At least it works for me. How about you?
In the end, the only network I trust the most is my FAMILY. I love them because they will never ever betray me and never ever make me suffer. They have unconditional love. I love them so much.
Btw, that is also a lesson (not only for me, but also for you all). Never ignore the existence of your family just because you want to spend more time with your friend. Believe me it is not worthed. Spend your time with your family even more! Because they will be the only one who will comfort you when you are sad. They will be the only one who calm you down when you are mad. They will be the one who help you to solve any problem that you face. NOT YOUR FRIEND! Well they might help you….but how sincere it is?
Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!
I love myself, muach from Pink!
January 8, 2012 in Living Thought, Uncategorized
What is the relation between Carrier Man and Marriage. Lately, I am curious in observing people surrounding me, both man and woman. I am looking around my colleagues and start observing them one by one. OK, I have to be honest…yes true…I am observing the male only….as a starting point.
Most of my colleagues are either married or having girlfriend. And believe me, they are not old which is of course really surprising me. One colleagues of mine is married when he was 25 years old, the other is 23 years old, and even there is one colleague who got married when he was only 20 years old. 20 YEARS OLD! Even I could not understand that. I mean, I am Indonesian which people will hunt you down to “force” you to get married before 30. Even after 25 years old, people will keep asking you “when are u getting married? don’t you want to build a family” bla bla bla things…even though they know that we don’t have any partner yet. And what I know about European is they do not want to be in such commitment in such young age. It is really the contrary between the thing I assume and the thing in reality. Well not totally, maybe it is such a coincidence that people surrounding me got married in such young age.
I keep asking myself why people surrounding me got married in early age. My sister said to me “It is because you are having friend with good people only. And good people always wants to give full respect to the one they truly loved. Therefore, they don’t want to waste any time or decrease any value of it. They decided to go to the next level with someone they care and love“
I thought about this, and it seems it is true. Man who wants to boost up their successful in life will prefer to not waste time to anything. This kind of love-life is one of them. Man does not want to fool around himself just to get the “satisfaction” of love. They will just go for it, stick with it, and make it better. Just to answer my curiosity, I asked them around why they are getting married early. One of my colleague said that It is related to religious thing. He is a christian. He said that we should not mess around with someone that we loved. He said that it is almost the same as in Moslem that people can not have sex before marriage. He also holds that principle. He loves his girlfriend and he does not want to mess around with her. It’s been 5 years and they are still love each other and their love is even growing since they don’t have someone else to compare.
My other colleague said his reason why he got married when he was 20 years old. He said that he wants to have someone to fully support him in order for him to realize his dream to be a successful person. At first I don’t really understand what does it mean. Then he continue to explain it. He meant that behind a good man there is always a woman. A woman is the one who make a man. Woman is the one who shape the man. Woman is the one who add more characteristics to the man. “I could not be like this if I am still single. My wife helps me through all of the difficulty of achieving my dream. My wife is the one who I can share all of my burdens. Even though sometimes she can not help me much but her affections and understanding already make me relieved and reduce my burdens. “
I loved this answer. It is answering all of the questions that have been hovering in my head for some times now. It is true that behind a successful man there is always a woman behind him.
So, for all single man or not-yet-married man, what are you waiting for? Don’t say that you are not ready yet to say yes to marriage just because you are not good enough. When you find a woman that wants to accompany you to get through of the marriage life, don’t waste this opportunity. She will help you to build the path to be more successful, build your characteristics, build your motivation, and build your readiness.
Don’t ever say that you are not ready yet. People will never ever fully ready. What we can do as human is preparing ourselves and go for it. Believe yourselves that there is always a way to make it better.
Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!
I love myself, muach from Pink!
December 30, 2011 in Living Thought, Netherland, Uncategorized
This morning I read newspaper in the Metro when I was on my way to the office. It was dutch newspaper. Even though I can not speak dutch pretty well, I always try to read the dutch newspaper just to improve my dutch. And yes true, the easiest part to read is the HOROSCOPE. I don’t believe in horoscope, but it is easy to read and it usually contains new words which will add my vocabulary on it. Eventually.
So, I read the horoscope and there is a really buggy expression that I could not get it off from my mind. “Verkoop het huid niet voor de beer geschoten is” I tried to understand it literally which means “Don’t sell the skin of the bear before the bear is being shot til death“. At first, I thought that “OMG, it is cruel…how come people sell the skin of the bear when they are still alive, that is really not animality”, (humanity is for human so animality is for animal 
)
But then I figured it that it means that:
We should not do something without deep thinking. Everything should be well-thought. Otherwise, we will pay the consequences.
So, next time when you want to decide something, please please please remember this phrase “Verkoop het huid niet voor de beer geschoten is”. It is also really suitable for me. I mostly take quick decision without think it thoroughly which make me “sometimes” regret for all of those decision I have made.
Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!
I love myself, muach from Pink!
December 26, 2011 in Living Thought
Hi fellaaaass,
I put that title into my ebuddy status, and some of my friend asked me what that’s means. Hmmmm….so i think it is such a good time to update my blog with this status as my title. Lately, i was busy fighting with my self. It was my habbit to blame myself for everything that has happened in my past, no matter what.
When i was in elementary school, i tried to enter the best junior high school in my town. I was indeed being accepted in that school easily. However, i was beaten by a lot of students since i was not attractive enough, i was not sexy because at that time i looked like a boy….literally looked like a boy. Short hair, no boobs, no but, definitely like a man. Even my classmate said to me that if i did not stand up when i am introducing my self, he thought that i am a boy. The girl wear skirt at school thats why we can differentiate boy and girl.
Even my sport teacher at that time grabbed my hair and almost cut my hair because my hair was a bit long. And then we are all scream that i am a girl.
I was not popular at my junior high school and i always say to myself…if and if only i did not apply for this school i might be popular. I hate this school they make friend base on physical attraction and money.
But then i learned hard enough to be able to enter the best senior high school in my town. And indeed i made it. This time i dont want to be like in my past school, i tried so hard having as many as activity at school for others to recognize me. I followed a lot of school activities…..and the result, i joined the top 9 organizer at school when i was in my first grade. It was hard for girl-first-grade to join top 9 school organizer.
When i came to netherland to study my bachelor, a lot of obstacles and problems that i never imagined that i will pass it. Everytime i always say if and if only…..if and if only i never choose this path, i will not have to work my ass really hard…study my bachelor during the day, deliver newspaper at 4 oclock in the morning, deliver newspaper at 3 oclock in the afternoon, babysit in the weekend, and then working in the restaurant or take away food in the evening. It was so frustrating….and i also need to study afterward.
I still remember the month i have to eat only apple and water for the whole month because i can not afford to buy food. It was really terrible and i lose weight a lot that time.
If and if only i did not choose this path, i might enjoy teenage life with my parents
I also still remember how miserable i am when my fiancee suddenly married someone else just 4 months before our planned marriage. He did not even notify my parents for that.
If and if only i never chose him to be my fiancee, i might not feel this miserable. And i will still be the little daughter of my parents.
But hey, these past few months, i found that myself is changing. I become calmer and wiser when facing people. I also tried to speak up, say out loud what my opinions are, and yes i enjoy my life even more.
I reviewed everything, if i never join the best junior high school maybe i will not be able to join the top 9 school organizer in the senior high school. In that school, a lot of friends from my junior hig school that support me and choose me to be the top school organizer.
And if i never come to the neherland, i might be a spoiled kid that never value how difficult life is. I will never know how miserable it is to live alone and hunger without family and food. And if my fiancee did not marry that girl maybe i will be miserable to live with him forever and never live my life like now.
The choice that u have chosen in your life is making your life even spicer. It might be bad choice but that choice will lead you to another life that might be better or worse. It depends on how you cooperate with it. The suffer u feel at that time because of ur choice is what make u stronger.
That is also the same paradigm with te swiss cheese.
Have you ever seen swiss cheese before?
Swiss cheese is full with holes. But the more variants of hole you have in that cheese, the more delicious the cheese is.
So, remove all the if and if only list from your life. Just continue your life, find the lesson from the mistake and find another way to fix it or face it.
People make mistake, but you will never be able to face your future if you always face backward or stay on static position. Accept what you have done, admit that you make mistakes and let it go. Then you will be able to cooperate with yourself again and work at the same pace both physically and mentally.
But another question come up, how bout if someone else cannot accept the mistaken choice you have taken in the past?
May 23, 2011 in Daily Shoutout, Living Thought, inti sari, kajian
Barusan baca-baca news archive lewat google reader, baru tahu jumlah mall di jakarta itu ternyata sebanyak 170. Gileeeee, jakarta segitu diisi 170 mall. Bayangkan ya gan tiap mall itu pasti punya lahan parkir yang gedeeeee abis. Udah gitu biasanya yang kesana kan pada pake mobil kan…jadi ya so pasti lah…lahan area udah habis dipake mall en parkir plus-plusnya…terus ya macet lah jadinyaaa…
Selama ini kan kita mikir, gimana kalau misalnya pusat pemerintahan dipindah aja dari jakarta. Ya benernya boleh sih..tapi gimana kalau nanti pusat pemerintahan dipindah eh ternyata pusat ekonomi dan bisnis nya ngikut juga ke kota dimana pusat pemerintahan di pindah. Kan sama aje bo-ong ya gan….nah loo…gak pernah mikir kan…:D
Nah menurutku tuh yang pas, gimana caranya misahin pusat pemerintahan dengan pusat ekonomi en pusat bisnis.
Dan yang resiko probabilitynya paling kecil. *ceileeeee….mentang-mentang habis ujian probabilitas en statistics jadi ngomongnya pake probability probability segala…
Berarti intinya ada 2 possible way kan:
Nah mending ditilik satu-satu deh. Kalau kita ambil option pertama untung ruginya apa kira-kira ya.
Untung:
jadi gak bikin macet gitu maksudnya. Habisnya kesel, president kok malah bikin macet jalan.Rugi:
), mikirin pindahan pula.Naaaah kenapa gk kita pindahin aja mall-mall yang sejumlah 170 itu ke kota lain (or pulau lain). Maksud ane bukan mall-mallnya sih..tapi pusat bisnis dan perekonomian. Nah mall ini salah satunya. Ya jangan dipindahin semua si gan…kasian ntar para PNS dan CPNS nya kagak bisa belanja. Ya sisain lah 4 or 8 biji mall di Jakarta. 2 buat Jakut, 2 buat Jaksel, 2 buat Jak pusat. etc etc. kan adil tuh gan
Terus kantor-kantor asing seperti milik loreal, nestle, unilever, Chevron, P&G, Shell, en masih banyak lagi yang laennya…itu musti away dari jakarta. Nah dengan begini kan paling tidak udah ada usaha buat ngebersihin jakarta. Kepadatan jakarta jadi bisa dikurangin.
Nah untungnya buat pemerintah kalau pusat bisnis en ekonominya yang dipindahin dari jakarta:
Kalau ruginya buat pemerintah, jujur ane belon kepikiran gan. Ntar kalau udah nemu ane share lagi dah.
Nah terus lahan-lahan bekas mall yang dihancurkan (karena kan pindah gan mallnya ke pulau lain) bisa dijadikan pelebaran jalan,jalur sepeda, taman (asal jangan dijadi-in tempat nge-bar mabuk, judi, en pacaran plus plus aje yeeee…) or perpustakaan kota yaaang asriiii abisss….
Gimana gan??? setuju kagak?
January 8, 2011 in Living Thought
Assalamualaikum,
I have just watched “Medium” which title is “Pain Killer“. In this serial, it is about a doctor who decides which patient should be kept to be taken care of, or which patient should be given death sentence.
Dr. Thomas Stanler, the doctor in this movie, is a doctor who handles all the patients who get cancer. He is a good doctor indeed. He saved a lot of lifes which of course with HIS permission. (But this is a Hollywood movie, no such thing about HIS permission :p).
But anyway, he seems like to judge the patient’s life or time to death by himself. So, when he knew that there is no longer hope for the patient to live then he will inject the “special” liquid to them without anyone permission. I mean with no hope here such as cancer with stage 4, no life insurance, not so rich person, can not pay the bill, etc. But actually, the patients themselves still have hope to live.
We all know that being doctor is a “gift”. They can help healing their disease or illness. But it does not mean that they have the right to decide which patients can continue to live and which patients should just die. The doctor may argue that this decision is for the patient’s own good. They may argue that it will end the patient’s pain from disease and help them not throwing a huge fortune just for trying to heal them and for the uncertain hope. How do they know? How do they know that it will help the patient? How do they know that it will end their pain? How do they know that there is no such hope?
The reasons might not because of money like the other many other practices of them but it still cost life that no one can ever buy it from anyone and anywhere. Are they divine or devil?
Wassalamualaikum
January 5, 2011 in Daily Shoutout, Living Thought, kajian
Assalamualaikum,
Beberapa waktu lalu kita semua tahu ada pembahasan MUI yang mengatakan bawah Facebook itu HARAM. Dikatakan bahwa Facebook hanya akan membawa dan membantu kemaksiatan lebih cepat.
Well, I don’t think that I agree with the statement above. If I may say, it all depends on the user and how the user is gonna use the facebook.
Seperti halnya sebuah pisau. Pisau itu benda halal, dia bermanfaat buat kehidupan sehari-hari umat manusia unless dia digunakan untuk hal-hal yang membawa kemaksiatan seperti membunuh dan menyiksa. Tapi yang perlu kita ketahui, pisau ini sendiri tidak akan berubah menjadi haram.
Begitu juga dengan facebook, kalau facebook ini digunakan sebagai media pamer kemolekan tubuh yang bisa menimbulkan maksiat, maka lebih baik kita menghindari penggunaan facebook. Tetapi, juga kita berniat menggunakan facebook sebagai media dakwah, silahturahmi, networking, dan sumber ilmu pengetahuan yg baik dan berguna maka fungsi facebook ini menjadi sangat bermanfaat buat kita.
Kita sebagai manusia memang terkadang sering terlalu mudah mengharamkan sesuatu dan terkadang malah berbuat sebaliknya. Satu hal yang saya ingat:
Segala sesuatu di dunia ini dikatakan HALAL unless ada statement di Alquran maupun Hadits yang mengatakan bahwa sesuatu itu adalah HARAM.
Jadi berhati-hatilah akan segala sesuatu yang kita kerjakan.
Wassalamualaikum
January 2, 2011 in Living Thought
There is 26 years old woman asking to Allah SWT. She asked for flower and butterfly. Instead gave her a flower, Allah SWT gave her a cactus.
Instead gave her a beautiful butterfly, Allah SWT gave her a caterpillar.
She thought that Allah SWT might not heard her requests. She thought that Allah SWT might have rejected her requests.
Though, she still took care both of them. Someday, she came to her garden to see the cactus and the caterpillar. But in her surprised, in the edge of cactus….there was a beautiful flower. Another surprised, the caterpillar metamorphosed into a beautiful butterfly.
Yes, today it might be a Thorn. Today it might be a caterpillar…but who knows for tomorrow….tomorrow, it might be a beautiful flower, tomorrow it might be a beautiful butterfly.
Allah SWT always fulfilled our requests which are good for us. But Allah SWT gave it in different way that we expected. Allah SWT loves us. Therefore Allah SWT does not fulfill our requests directly. Instead, Allah SWT would like to show us the path to pick up our requests.
I love my life!
Groetje van Pink!
Muach
January 2, 2011 in Living Thought
Effort en balloon?
Wait a minute, is there any relation between both of them?
effort to blow up a balloon?
effort to get a balloon?
effort for what balloon?
Yeah pretty much like that, effort to blow up a balloon.
ok! en then?
So, when I went back to Indonesia for vacation…I paid a visit to my kindergarten, Creative Kindergarten (promotion mode on ).
At that time they had a competition to blow up a balloon…after that they should release our ballon, and if the ballon can reach the final line….then they won….
At first, I thought it was only a game for fun. But after that I realized that the teacher then gathered them in the middle of the classroom. The teacher then told them a meaning behind the game which I even never realized that there is a story behind it.
Do u know how balloon fly? We never sure about its direction. It might go straight to the front, or maybe go backward, or maybe go everywhere….If it could not reach the front line….then we should blow it once again…and try to release it again.
it is also the same as us. The blowing phase is called as our effort. the release one is called as delivering the effort…and accept the result…whatever it is. We have already done our best…but still we never able to predict the result. it might be good…or bad… who knows. What we can do is we should stay motivate ourself to do it again and again if we fail to reach our goal. never ever desperate with the failure.
I hope this story can motivate ourselves to give the best effort we can. And after that just accept the result, bad or good. And just say it out loud: Keep smile! I love my life!
Groetje van Pink!
Muach!