Friend or Foe?

February 28, 2012 in Living Thought, Uncategorized

Companions are those who help you get up to believe yourself, while others tried to drop and underestimate you

I love this quote because it reminds me how I should be a good friend for all of my friend. I used to have a best friend that stabbed me from behind. Well it might be not entirely represent the quote I wrote above. But what my best friend did has made my confidence to drop. Luckily, I am able to get up again. But hurt is hurt :)

My point here is, when you are befriend with someone, do not drop his or her trust. When you are a good friend of someone, your act toward him or her is much more considerable. I mean, which one is hurt the most…..being betrayed by a close-friend or by just random people (such as colleague or friend) ?

For me it will be more painful if my really close and trusted person betrayed me or stabbed me.

People can be friend and can be foe. And mostly foe comes from your own close network. But then how can we define whether he/she is a friend or foe? Well we never can define it until it is uncovered by itself.

I was never be able to differentiate whether this friend is a friend or that friend is a foe. Maybe it is part of my personality that always trust people so easy…That’s why lot of my close friends just use and abuse me.

Use me which means just rely on me when they have trouble or problem that they can not be solved. When they already happy about it, they will just forget me.  Abuse me which means betrayed me such as in front of me say A and behind my back say B.

Well does that mean that now I am able to differentiate whether a friend is a friend and not a foe? No, not at all. Now I assume that all of my old-close-friend is just a friend. No attached feeling and sensitivity. It is saver. At least it works for me. How about you?

In the end, the only network I trust the most is my FAMILY. I love them because they will never ever betray me and never ever make me suffer. They have unconditional love. I love them so much.

Btw, that is also a lesson (not only for me, but also for you all). Never ignore the existence of your family just because you want to spend more time with your friend. Believe me it is not worthed. Spend your time with your family even more! Because they will be the only one who will comfort you when you are sad. They will be the only one who calm you down when you are mad. They will be the one who help you to solve any problem that you face. NOT YOUR FRIEND! Well they might help you….but how sincere it is?

Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!

I love myself, muach from Pink!

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Ten tips to move away “dirty” insect

February 27, 2012 in Uncategorized

We always want to have a clean house. Is there anyone who wants to have house full with insects such as cockroach, drosophila, Musca Domestica, ant, and many other type of insect? Nobody I supposed.

Currently, our kitchen is hijacked by the Drosophila or Musca Domestica. I don’t know which one, for me everything looks the same. And they have similar effect to me…DISGUSTING! :D

I thought it was because the heat of summer. And we thought that it will be gone when the winter is coming. But now is already January but they are still exist here. Not as terrible as during the summer but still there are like 1 or 2 left in the house. And I don’t want them to reproduce their similar kind for the next summer. Who knows if they have built their nest inside the house? In that case I will tear down the house. *No, it is kidding  P

So, here are several tips on how to avoid them to hijack your kitchen.

Dry garbage bin

 Wet garbage bin

 Paper garbage bin

 Bottle garbage bin
  1. Separate the garbage bin based on their type such as: bin for wet garbage, bin for dry garbage, bin for papers, and bin for bottles. Example is given above.
  2. Close the dry garbage bin and wet garbage bin tightly
  3. Throw away the wet garbage every one or max two days. It will avoid the drosophila to have food for reproduction. Their life-cycle is up to a week.
  4. Throw away the dry garbage every once a week. Therefore choose the medium plastic bin instead of the large plastic bin. It will force you to clean it every once a week and luckily maybe also the house itself.
  5. Don’t wait until the garbage bin is full or frankly said…more than its capacity to throw it away. We are not a garbage collector, aren’t we?
  6. Don’t leave the garbage plastic full with garbage in the house just because we are too lazy to put it in the central garbage bin. Since it will attract insect even more. Just bring it along with you every time you go out to university, to the supermarket, or to the office. And put it in the central garbage bin. It is easy, right? It will not take your time. It will take more time for you to clean the whole house and get stressed since once they come, it will be difficult to get them away.
  7. Don’t leave the food or leftover food on the table or kitchen or open area without being properly closed. It is better to put them in the Tupperware and place it in the refrigerator. It is better for the food as well as for the house.
  8. Don’t leave the used plates, glasses, forks, spoons, and others cutlery type everywhere. If there is no time to do dishes, just put them on the sinks and rinse it with water. It is used for removing the food from the used cutlery so that the insect will not be attracted by its smell. It is also easier to wash the cutlery afterward.
  9. Open the window every day at least for 10 minutes. It is used as air circulation in the house.  So, fresh air anyone! J
  10. Basically, after all….do total house cleaning every once a week or once within two weeks.

Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!

I love myself, muach from Pink!

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Project Juzz Amma – Update 1

February 17, 2012 in Featured

I know I know, I am so slow in doing my project Juzz Amma….The thing is I was on vacation for three weeks and I forgot to do it since there was a lot of “fun” there :D . By the way, I am now keeping up to try to reach my target. Once again….wish me luck!

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Project Juz Amma

January 15, 2012 in Featured, Project, Uncategorized

Start from 15 January 2012, I will force my self to memorize the Al-Qur’an. Not the whole one, but at least I have to start it from somewhere. And I will start it from the last part of the Al-Qur’an the Juz 30 or we call it Juz Amma. It consists 37 sur’ah. And I promise myself to finish it within 4 months and it means that I need to memorize it on top of my head. It should be tested as well by other person. I hope that I can finish it within the promised-range-time. The picture below is my juz-amma-log that will be used to track me with all of the process. Wish me luck guys!

Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!

I love myself, muach from Pink!


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Persoonswoorden

January 14, 2012 in Netherland, Uncategorized

Enkelvoud (singular)

Personen in het enkelvoud: Ik, jij/u, hij, zij

Ik heet Henk (I am Henk or My name is Henk)

Jij heet Nga. U heet Nga. (You are Nga)

Hij heet Peter. (He is Peter)

Zij heet Prita. (She is Prita)

Zij is voor vrouwen. Hij is voor mannen.

U is voor volwassenen en jij is voor kinderen en vrienden.


Meervoud (plural)

Personen in het meervoud: wij, jullie/u, zij

Ik en jij of ik en hij of ik en jij en jij en jij : wij

Jij en jij en jij: jullie of u en u en u en u : u

twee of meer mensen: zij en twee of meer kinderen: zij

Betekenis (Meaning):

vrouwen : women

mannen : men

volwassenen: adult

kinderen: children

vrienden: friends

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Carrier Man vs Marriage

January 8, 2012 in Living Thought, Uncategorized

What is the relation between Carrier Man and Marriage. Lately, I am curious in observing people surrounding me, both man and woman. I am looking around my colleagues and start observing them one by one. OK, I have to be honest…yes true…I am observing the male only….as a starting point.

Most of my colleagues are either married or having girlfriend. And believe me, they are not old which is of course really surprising me. One colleagues of mine is married when he was 25 years old, the other is 23 years old, and even there is one colleague  who got married when he was only 20 years old. 20 YEARS OLD! Even I could not understand that. I mean, I am Indonesian which people will hunt you down to “force” you to get married before 30. Even after 25 years old, people will keep asking you “when are u getting married? don’t you want to build a family” bla bla bla things…even though they know that we don’t have any partner yet. And what I know about European is they do not want to be in such commitment in such young age. It is really the contrary between the thing I assume and the thing in reality. Well not totally, maybe it is such a coincidence that people surrounding me got married in such young age.

I keep asking myself why people surrounding me got married in early age. My sister said to me “It is because you are having friend with good people only. And good people always wants to give full respect to the one they truly loved. Therefore, they don’t want to waste any time or decrease any value of it. They decided to go to the next level with someone they care and love“

I thought about this, and it seems it is true. Man who wants to boost up their successful in life will prefer to not waste time to anything. This kind of love-life is one of them. Man does not want to fool around himself just to get the “satisfaction” of love. They will just go for it, stick with it, and make it better. Just to answer my curiosity, I asked them around why they are getting married early. One of my colleague said that It is related to religious thing. He is a christian. He said that we should not mess around with someone that we loved. He said that it is almost the same as in Moslem that people can not have sex before marriage. He also holds that principle. He loves his girlfriend and he does not want to mess around with her. It’s been 5 years and they are still love each other and their love is even growing since they don’t have someone else to compare.

My other colleague said his reason why he got married when he was 20 years old. He said that he wants to have someone to fully support him in order for him to realize his dream to be a successful person. At first I don’t really understand what does it mean. Then he continue to explain it. He meant that behind a good man there is always a woman. A woman is the one who make a man. Woman is the one who shape the man. Woman is the one who add more characteristics to the man. “I could not be like this if I am still single. My wife helps me through all of the difficulty of achieving my dream. My wife is the one who I can share all of my burdens. Even though sometimes she can not help me much but her affections and understanding already make me relieved and reduce my burdens. “

I loved this answer. It is answering all of the questions that have been hovering in my head for some times now. It is true that behind a successful man there is always a woman behind him.

So, for all single man or not-yet-married man, what are you waiting for? Don’t say that you are not ready yet to say yes to marriage just because you are not good enough. When you find a woman that wants to accompany you to get through of the marriage life, don’t waste this opportunity. She will help you to build the path to be more successful, build your characteristics, build your motivation, and build your readiness.

Don’t ever say that you are not ready yet. People will never ever fully ready. What we can do as human is preparing ourselves and go for it. Believe yourselves that there is always a way to make it better.

Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!

I love myself, muach from Pink!

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Ayam Kecap ala Student (Chicken Ketjap ala Student)

January 5, 2012 in Featured, Uncategorized

Ingredients:

  • as many as u like Sweet Soja Saus or Kecap Manis
  • 1 teaspoon Salt
  • 2 teaspoon Black Pepper
  • 750ml Water
  • 1 or 2 Chopped Onion
  • 1 kg Chicken

How to:

  1. Boil the chicken with the water
  2. Put salt, black pepper, and sweet soja saus into it
  3. Let it boiled and the water decreased until the chicken is good enough
  4. In the mean time, since you are student, you can just continue reading your study material or clean the house or chat with your study fellow. :D
  5. After it is good enough, put the chopped onion into it
  6. Stir it until it is all good
  7. Ready to serve!

This recipe is good for student since you can just continue studying while you are cooking. You don’t have to give full concentration while cook this. You just put everything, boil it, and then do other task until it is ready to be served. The good thing is, it always tasty. The sweet soja saus is the hero in every food :D .

Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy Cooking!

I love myself, muach from Pink!

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Verkoop het huid niet voor de beer geschoten is

December 30, 2011 in Living Thought, Netherland, Uncategorized

This morning I read newspaper in the Metro when I was on my way to  the office. It was dutch newspaper. Even though I can not speak dutch pretty well, I always try to read the dutch newspaper just to improve my dutch. And yes true, the easiest part to read is the HOROSCOPE. I don’t believe in horoscope, but it is easy to read and it usually contains new words which will add my vocabulary on it. Eventually.

So, I read the horoscope and there is a really buggy expression that I could not get it off from my mind. “Verkoop het huid niet voor de beer geschoten is” I tried to understand it literally which means “Don’t sell the skin of the bear before the bear is being shot til death“. At first, I thought that “OMG, it is cruel…how come people sell the skin of the bear when they are still alive, that is really not animality”, (humanity is for human so animality is for animal :D )

But then I figured it that it means that:

We should not do something without deep thinking. Everything should be well-thought. Otherwise, we will pay the consequences.

So, next time when you want to decide something, please please please remember this phrase “Verkoop het huid niet voor de beer geschoten is”. It is also really suitable for me. I mostly take quick decision without think it thoroughly which make me “sometimes” regret for all of those decision I have made.

Be yourself, be happy, be brave and of course Happy thinking!

I love myself, muach from Pink!

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Embrace the swiss cheese of life

December 26, 2011 in Living Thought

Hi fellaaaass,

I put that title into my ebuddy status, and some of my friend asked me what that’s means. Hmmmm….so i think it is such a good time to update my blog with this status as my title. Lately, i was busy fighting with my self. It was my habbit to blame myself for everything that has happened in my past, no matter what.

When i was in elementary school, i tried to enter the best junior high school in my town. I was indeed being accepted in that school easily. However, i was beaten by a lot of students since i was not attractive enough, i was not sexy because at that time i looked like a boy….literally looked like a boy. Short hair, no boobs, no but, definitely like a man. Even my classmate said to me that if i did not stand up when i am introducing my self, he thought that i am a boy. The girl wear skirt at school thats why we can differentiate boy and girl.

Even my sport teacher at that time grabbed my hair and almost cut my hair because my hair was a bit long. And then we are all scream that i am a girl.

I was not popular at my junior high school and i always say to myself…if and if only i did not apply for this school i might be popular. I hate this school they make friend base on physical attraction and money.

But then i learned hard enough to be able to enter the best senior high school in my town. And indeed i made it. This time i dont want to be like in my past school, i tried so hard having as many as activity at school for others to recognize me. I followed a lot of school activities…..and the result, i joined the top 9 organizer at school when i was in my first grade. It was hard for girl-first-grade to join top 9 school organizer.

When i came to netherland to study my bachelor, a lot of obstacles and problems that i never imagined that i will pass it. Everytime i always say if and if only…..if and if only i never choose this path, i will not have to work my ass really hard…study my bachelor during the day, deliver newspaper at 4 oclock in the morning, deliver newspaper at 3 oclock in the afternoon, babysit in the weekend, and then working in the restaurant or take away food in the evening. It was so frustrating….and i also need to study afterward.

I still remember the month i have to eat only apple and water for the whole month because i can not afford to buy food. It was really terrible and i lose weight a lot that time.
If and if only i did not choose this path, i might enjoy teenage life with my parents

I also still remember how miserable i am when my fiancee suddenly married someone else just 4 months before our planned marriage. He did not even notify my parents for that.
If and if only i never chose him to be my fiancee, i might not feel this miserable. And i will still be the little daughter of my parents.

But hey, these past few months, i found that myself is changing. I become calmer and wiser when facing people. I also tried to speak up, say out loud what my opinions are, and yes i enjoy my life even more.

I reviewed everything, if i never join the best junior high school maybe i will not be able to join the top 9 school organizer in the senior high school. In that school, a lot of friends from my junior hig school that support me and choose me to be the top school organizer.
And if i never come to the neherland, i might be a spoiled kid that never value how difficult life is. I will never know how miserable it is to live alone and hunger without family and food. And if my fiancee did not marry that girl maybe i will be miserable to live with him forever and never live my life like now.

The choice that u have chosen in your life is making your life even spicer. It might be bad choice but that choice will lead you to another life that might be better or worse. It depends on how you cooperate with it. The suffer u feel at that time because of ur choice is what make u stronger.

That is also the same paradigm with te swiss cheese.

Have you ever seen swiss cheese before?

Swiss cheese is full with holes. But the more variants of hole you have in that cheese, the more delicious the cheese is.

So, remove all the if and if only list from your life. Just continue your life, find the lesson from the mistake and find another way to fix it or face it.
People make mistake, but you will never be able to face your future if you always face backward or stay on static position. Accept what you have done, admit that you make mistakes and let it go. Then you will be able to cooperate with yourself again and work at the same pace both physically and mentally.

But another question come up, how bout if someone else cannot accept the mistaken choice you have taken in the past?

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Salty Fried Squid and Black Pepper

June 23, 2011 in Featured, Resep Masakan

Bahan

  • Cumi-cumi 500gr
  • 1 sdt black peppercorn
  • 3 daun bawang
  • 2 cabe merah
  • 2 cabe rawit
  • 1 bawang bombay
  • 3 bawang merah
  • minyak goreng / olive oil/ butter

Campuran tepung:

  • tepung tapioka
  • tepung terigu
  • white pepper halus
  • garam

atau jika mau gampang, pake tepung kobe saja.

Bumbu halus:

  • 5 siung bawang putih
  • 1/2 sdt garam
  • 1 sdt white peppercorn

Cara membuat:

  1. Bersihkan cumi-cumi dengan cara dikulitin, isi perutnya dikeluarkan, dan potong bagian tentakelnya. Sayat-sayat kulit bagian dalam cumi-cumi dan kemudian potong-potong sesuai selera. Bisa juga membeli cumi-cumi yang sudah potongan jadi tidak perlu repot untuk membersihkan cumi-cumi.
  2. Massage cumi-cumi dengan bumbu halus dan biarkan selama 15 menit.
  3. Selama menunggu 15 menit itu potong-potong kecil bawang bombay dan bawang merah, iris miring cabe merah dan cabe rawit, dan juga potong-potong agak memanjang daun bawang.
  4. Guling-gulingkan cumi-cumi kedalam campuran tepung tadi, dan goreng (menggorengnya jangan terlalu lama)
  5. Tumis bawang bombay, bawang merah, cabe rawit, cabe merah selama 10 – 20 detik dan masukkan cumi-cumi goreng tadi. masukkan black peppercorn yang sudah dihaluskan, aduk-aduk selama 10 detik dan masukkan daun bawang.Aduk-aduk lagi dan angkat.
  6. Selesaiiii……

Note: ukuran bahan dan bumbu bisa disesuaikan sesuai selera.

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